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editor 
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,03:29 |
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Dys is right!
The way she acted then is most likely the way she'll play you in the future.
I suspect she honestly doesn't know how she feels herself and being with her will drive you batty!
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demonk
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,03:49 |
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There's the rube. Girls (on average; there are a few good ones are there) don't know what they want, both from themselves and from the opposite sex. And it's because they never sit down and ask "What do I want?". Makes getting close to them very, very, very hard.
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Mhoraigh
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,03:55 |
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I second what ed said. She probably doesn't know for sure how she herself feels.
I disagree with demonk saying that we don't sit down and say "What do I want" - it's more that when we sit down and do so our answers are often in conflict with each other. It gets very confusing. I'm female and I don't claim to understand women (I've said it before and I'll say it again, there's a reason I don't date women and it's not because I don't find them attractive).
There are certain situations when you need to ask yourself if it's worth it. Is being there for this girl worth the pain she inevitably continues to put you through? If it is then go ahead and be a shoulder to cry on, but if it isn't worth it then you need to write her off. But don't disappear, tell her why before you leave.
just my opinion
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BigBear
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,05:51 |
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Heh, mhoraigh, I think you are right just not in this case.
She writes a whole two pages in my yearbook [and has to get a new pen half way through] about how much she is going to miss me when I move and blah blah. She came up to me at graduation and started crying talking about reading what I had written in her yearbook [of which she ended up in my arms about two seconds later], and had to avoid looking in my general direction because she kept thinking about it. Her boyfriend so saw her and me hugging and he was irate. He didn't talk to her for the rest of the night. She made a comment about a week and a half ago about "there hasn't been a day when I've been around him that we haven't been mad at eachother" which is in no doubt almost true. I'm really glad they broke up because she didn't deserve his completely distorted baptist fundamentals which ended up being more like "girls are my personal playthings which I can ignore". So now they've broken up and she's going through this "I wish I was dead, I can't live without him, I'm so completely worthless nobody loves me" stage.
From not only my personal deductions but those of other people, Demonk is certainly right about her being so damn confused. I'd like to let go, but I've spent so much time with her and she's one of my best friends, am I being stupid or is it just over and time to let go?
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Beldurin
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,06:07 |
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again, I'll offer my sage advice...
bend her over the couch and stick it in her butt...she'll thank you for it later.
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If someone's ungrateful and you tell him he's ungrateful, okay, you've called him a name.
You haven't solved anything.
-- zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance
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^Oni^
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,16:50 |
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Having a girl that doesn't know what she wants is a hell of a lot better than having one that knows EXACTLY what she wants; down to an itemized checklist that she puts on the table in front of you and asks you to fill out.
And no, I am not kidding. This has happened to me.
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BigBear
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,16:53 |
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Haha ok, so what exactly was on this checklist?
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LiNeY
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,21:42 |
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This questionnaire business reminds me of a scene in Nick Hornby's "High Fidelity"...
Anyway, I'm feeling lots better today. 
Are you gonna have a fight over who takes me out for a drink? 
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TheTaxMan
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Posted on: Jun. 25 2002,21:57 |
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*takes off the kid gloves*
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WillyPete
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Posted on: Jun. 26 2002,01:08 |
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No fight, we still got coffee.
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