talking about "intimate subjects" isn't as hard as you're sure to make it out to be in your mind. It can be emotionally difficult, I know. But remembering the following things might help you stay as calm as you can in the situation :
- Physically speaking, it's no harder to say "you are very special to me" than "I'd like a cheeseburger, fries, and a Coke."
- Regardless of whether she accepts, rejects, or acts like she didn't hear you, she's as nervous as you are.
- Girls usually think that guys who are nervous but try anyway are very brave and therefore very cute.
- For that matter, girls judge guys with completely different criteria than guys judge other guys. Unless you betray their trust, girls are usually less harsh in their judgements.
- Don't worry about saying something stupid in front of a girl. Unlike your male friends who tease you relentlessly, a girl is unlikely to notice that you said something lame, and if she DOES notice she'll probably think it's cute.
- This is probably going to get me strung up by my nuts, but... girls are more insecure than they appear. This means that a good, honest compliment- something like blurting out "you have really pretty eyes" the moment after you think it- will do wonders. The trick is not to plan what you're gonna say, just let all the good, warm things you're thinking fly out of your mouth, and keep the negativity inside where it belongs.
- Finally, GIRLS AIN'T GUYS, so try not to think about what your male friends would think of what you're saying to her, and especially don't think that she's thinking the same way. Although they are capable of some pretty horrible things, as a general rule girls are much, much kinder than men.
This message has been edited by damien_s_lucifer on December 07, 2001 at 03:50 PM
