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Hellraiser 
PH34R M3
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Posted on: Jan. 28 2002,01:31 |
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That blows man. Life can be so unfair...
I know anything I might say would seem trite, so all I can do is offer my condolences and assure you that this community shares your pain. The loss of a friend is brutal, I know from experience. A close friend could only be worse, if you ever need anything just ask and I (and I'm sure the rest of the Detnet community) would be honored to help in any way possible.
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damien_s_lucifer
Emperor of Detnet
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Posted on: Jan. 28 2002,04:30 |
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oh, man, ic0n0, that's horrible. I am so sorry.
Best thing I can tell you is don't push yourself too hard to find a "reason" for it, because suicide is an unreasonable thing. I've been very close to that edge, and I can tell you that when someone is that depressed, their imagination takes over and makes "reality" seem too horrible to endure. It's a prison created by their own mind, and there is little you can do to pull them out.
Especially if you weren't even aware that the person was feeling like that.
The point is DON'T BLAME YOURSELF. Try not to blame him, either. Both of those feelings are natural reactions, but they don't help anything. Now is not a time for blame. Let yourself be sad at your loss, and accept the help that people offer you, and when you feel ready, make sure you talk to someone who is trained to help you... go talk to a counselor or therapist or something. The last thing your friend would've wanted is for his death to fuck you up for years.
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Wiley
©0®ÞØ®4+3 whØ®3
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Posted on: Jan. 28 2002,04:41 |
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It's odd how you view things after a person is gone, like the signatures or their favorite sites. When my friend Paul died I took his site off Geocites and added it to mine so I wouldn't lose it, it's kind of odd to go back and read it now. I get a different message now then when he was alive, it's like you take every word more seriously because it's all you have to go on and you can't question anything anymore.
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incubus
mack daddy
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Posted on: Jan. 28 2002,07:53 |
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I've been close to there myself, thankfully I was able to pull myself back. It's a sorry state of affairs ic0n0 ... you know where I am if you need a chat or anything.
My work email address is mgrice@plus.net.uk - feel free to use that if you need someone to chat to (I'm at work for the next 8 hours).
I remember LimeyTheGuy ... he was a pretty cool guy despite his not very vast number of posts. I'm sure he's in a place that's stacks better than this world ... but we won't know that 'til we're there ourselves.
Take care of yourself.
Mike
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Quit your job. Start a fight. Prove you're alive. If you don't claim your
humanity you will become a statistic. You have been warned ....... Tyler
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editor
forum whore
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Posted on: Jan. 28 2002,08:30 |
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Ic0n0 has emailed a short eulogy and photo which will run on the new detonate site when it's available.
It is sincerely hoped that not many or, any, more of these will be posted during editor's tenure.
This experience has not been enjoyable for all involved.
There is one bright spot in all of this. The community has come to the support of one of it's own who is in considerable pain.
It is a privilege to know such people.
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Rhydant
I don't work here.
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Posted on: Jan. 29 2002,01:25 |
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uhm... damn.
the reason i stayed away from this thread is due to the last time someone posted a thread about someone dying. i still havent forgiven personguy.
sorry man... i really dont know what to say.
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And when people tell me what is OK and what is not, it should not be unexpected see, I extend my middle right hand digit and say "Hey, would you like a lemon or lime with that piece of advice, Mister?"
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