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BlackFlag 
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Posted on: May 03 2002,21:59 |
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is he still picking fights and starting arguments over pointless shit that caused the breakup in the first place? does it seem as though he's intentionally trying to hurt you or make you cry? Does he seem desperate? Like he's trying to grab hold of something he can't afford to lose? Have your arguments degenerated into nit-picky word games yet?
I've been where this guy is at. As much as it shreaded my heart and soul, the hard cold wall of "FUCK YOU GO AWAY!" my ex threw up was the best thing for me, and her too. Everyone has a little asshole in them. Let it loose once in a while. I swear to god, i'm serious when i say you should go with the 'being a bitch' plan.
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demonk
The other white meat
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Posted on: May 04 2002,01:11 |
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Ok, I've been lurking for a few months now, but this topic was just too close to home for me not to post to it.
My girlfriend of almost 4 years recently broke up with me. While I'm not going into many details, my current love life, if made into a TV Drama, would be too much for even Fox! It would be on Showtime or HBO.
Anyway, I can tell you exactly where both you and him are coming from. Both of you have REAL feelings for each other left over. I don't know who broke up with who, but if you broke up with him then he might not be completely willing to let go. I know I'm not. And that makes it impossible for him to be just friends with you. Too many emotions and thoughts that you just can't have about friends are getting in the way. You have to cut off contact with him for a while. It's the only thing that will allow both of you to spend time looking out for youselves and allow you to both heal. I speak from experience on this one. It'll hurt almos as bad if not worse than the initial breakup to do it, but you have to cut contact, at least for a while. Let him know that you do care about him and that you do want to be real friends, but say that right now the emotions are still too intense and you need a cooling off period. Take a month or two and agree to not make ANY contact with each other. After that period, reasses where you both stand. You might be surprised with his change in how he acts towards you.
All this is just advice and not the only right way. This is just the way I'm dealing with it and the way many books and people have suggested to me. Like others have said above, only time will help. Good luck and I hope you two do end up being friends.
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Mhoraigh
stow-away
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Posted on: May 04 2002,02:53 |
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I do think we need a break from each other - I agree on that. It was a mutual break-up - he did the actual saying it, but only because I'd made it pretty clear it needed to happen but couldn't find the words.
We both do feel strongly for each other and although we've both had short relationships since then and are in the process of moving on, we both take things too personally still. I suppose it's easier to be hurt by someone you feel that strongly about.
However, it's a little hard to take a break - even if we don't email or call...we're both on one of the same message boards and it's hard to avoid each other there.
(note: I'm presently trying to take a break from that board for this reason, but it takes a lot of willpower to do....)
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liquid metal
i make this look good
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Posted on: May 04 2002,04:01 |
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how do you pronounce your forum name?
are you at the stage where you want to kill something everytime you hear/see something that is "of" him? i burned my former best friend's graduation picture because of reasons like this. almost did the same thing to my group prom photo but the goodness of everyone else counteracted it. distance yourself from him...but tell him that you want to distance yourselves. by sticking around you're hurting more than helping. it may suck for a little while but you'll get back to where you want to be.
took me a year but me and that former best friend are talking regularly now. not as many arguments. 
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j0eSmith
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Posted on: May 04 2002,04:43 |
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/me plays violin
Boo-fucking-Hoo, in C Minor.
(blatantly stolen from: http://www.shaw-island.com/)
If you can't be around him without crying, don't be around him. Akham's(sp?) Razor.
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Mhoraigh
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Posted on: May 04 2002,04:50 |
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Mhoraigh is pronounced Vori or Wori depending on if you're leaning towards the Scottish or Irish pronounciation.
I am not at the point where everything to do with him makes me crazy (that would be really hard considering he bought me the shoes I wear all the time for Chirstmas..).
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liquid metal
i make this look good
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Posted on: May 04 2002,17:05 |
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... you already said what you want to happen.. you want him gone for a little while...so then follow through.
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Wolfguard
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Posted on: May 04 2002,21:13 |
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or a few off handed comments and 50k in a swiss bank account and arangements could be made 
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BlackFlag
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Posted on: May 04 2002,22:35 |
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geez, i would have thought mhoraigh would be pronounced like Meriah.
btw, i know people who know people who know people who will kill just for the fuck of it if you buy the bullets.
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Mhoraigh
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Posted on: May 05 2002,03:04 |
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och - who needs that, I have enough friends who would help hide the body as it is and I'd never have to spoil my hands. However, I'm too nice - and besides, I still like the guy - remember?
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he taught me how to sail the briny sea
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To me what's a good life mean
I'm a pirate, that's all I'll ever be."
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