1. I'll never find the "right" person because there is no "right" person for me. (And I hold no judgements about people and 9 times out of 10 I'll take a date with a guy who asks me out- Its not like I have high standards...so stop thinking Im a snobby bitch)
2. I'll be too busy in my life to ever want to go though all the detail of it.
3. I don't want kids so its pretty much pointless
4. My personal ethics would stop me from ever walking down the aisle.
I just think the idea of marriage is so old fashioned...

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"The causes we know everything about depend on the causes we know nothing about, which depend on the causes we know absolutely nothing about."- Tom Stoppard

i'm only 16, and no matter how committed i am to my girlfriend, neither of us even THINK about that kind of shit. or want to until we're at least 25.

marriage should be a commitment. 'till death do us part and all that stuff.

--directhex

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The master has no need for money. And yet he sits and counts it. As a meditation.
-The Book of Cataclysm

but...uhm...i think im too damned young to think about this now. although it would prolly be nice to settle down some day or something. kids are a maybe, but no more than.... like 1 (i dont want screaming little bastards running around buggine me all day... hehheheh)

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Ice age coming Ice age coming
Throw it into the fire Throw it into the fire
Idioteque, by Radiohead - Kid A

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Originally posted by Greasemonk:
Another thing that amazes me is this. You got all these couples who get preganant then they get married because "its the right thing to do", then they get a divorce later on. Whats up with that?

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That's how my parents got together. My dad knocked up my mom during college, and they got married about a month before I was born (even though I was about 5 weeks late). My parents managed to inadvertantly create my younger brother, then got divorced while I was in 6th grade. Both of my parents have married wonderful people since. I seem to be pretty well adjusted.

Marriage: It is one of the absolutes. EVERY society in the world has a marriage practice in one form or another. Not every society (in fact, it's pretty rare) couple because of a love and devotion reason. That would be the reason I would marry, but that's a ways off.

You're making a commitment to someone, but it's a commitment that can be easily (and is routinely) broken.

You are making your relationship "official" to the law, but it is generally accepted that the government has no rights to interfere in our interpersonal relationships, so what are we doing?

I can understand the desire to make a commitment, but really, all you are doing when you get married is making it so that it would be more difficult to break up.

You want a relationship you can depend on? Don't go for unreliable people - if you don't trust the person you are with, will having a piece of paper help any? Gonna make them less likely to cheat, etc? No...

Marraige is also a religious thing, but most people that go in for conventional religious ideas believe that god is omniscient. If this is the case then why go through a special service to declare to god a relationship that it already knows about anyway? By marrying in a church, it isn't a blessing, it wasn't god deciding it was a good relationship, it was the vicar.

We live in an age of freedom, and the thought of being tied to a relationship in such a way is something i really hate.

I intend to avoid marraige at all costs.

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Originally posted by DuSTman:
We live in an age of freedom, and the thought of being tied to a relationship in such a way is something i really hate.

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Yes, I agree that if you are unable or unwilling to pursue any sort of long-lasting relationship or deep commitment to someone else, you definately should not get married.

You say that we live in an age of freedom, but what you're really saying is that we live in an age where people are all too willing to give up on something the moment things get tough or some real effort is required. This whole mentality has people thinking "Oh no, we had an argument, now our relationship is ruined" when the fact is that no relationship is perfect, but that if you aren't willing to put in the effort to try to make things right, you will just find yourself quitting whenever things don't turn out to be quite like a storybook romance.

The problem with our society is that it does not cultivate responsibility; rather, it teaches people that there's always someone else to blame and always an easy way out. As a result, we have a growing population of perpetual adolescents, unwilling to commit to anything, wandering from place to place and relationship to relationship. You are not truly a mature adult until you have learned to work things out and to accept responsibility for what happens rather than always blaming someone else.

I'm not saying that everyone should get married, but my point is that
marriage is meant to be a life-long commitment, usually including raising children. You should not enter into mariage if you do not expect it to last foreer, or if you are not willing to put in the effort that will make the marriage last.

Marriage isn't "old-fashioned" or outdated; it is an absolutely necessary and vital part of our society. That doesn't mean that those who remain unmarried are not equally vital, but they play a different sort of role. To make a rather wide generalization, the lives of married people are centered around their family, while the lives of unmarried people are centered more on their work.

Getting back to the topic- I think marriage is a sexually oppressive institution for women almost or equally as bad as prostitution.

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"The causes we know everything about depend on the causes we know nothing about, which depend on the causes we know absolutely nothing about."- Tom Stoppard

This message has been edited by Chrissy on October 20, 2000 at 05:57 AM