Topic: Not the best place, but...
started by: Mute
I have ALOT of friends who are always talking to me about their gf and their wonderful nights, and I feel REALLY left out. I've never had a gf in my life, and it is really starting to bug me. I'm an EXTREMELY shy person, so don't give me that be-yourself crap, I have for years and it has gotten me nowhere. just give alittle help to a pathetic soul, plzkthx!
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Quoth the Mute," ."
even if you're not the life of the party, it'll give you a chance to be approached by others
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kuru
'if your children ever found out how lame you are, they'd kill you in your sleep.' -frank zappa
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Quoth the Mute," ."
[This message has been edited by Mute (edited September 13, 2000).]
kuru: Not to say that's not good advice, because sometimes it is, but some people truly dislike parties. I don't know if Mute is one of them or not [okay, so he's not], but I for one, really hate them. It would be a rare occasion if I went to a party. It's not my environment, and I wouldn't feel comfortable, and would most likely just leave really damn angry.
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But where is < Gamera >?
[This message has been edited by Ozymandias (edited September 13, 2000).]
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UT 0wnz j00 all!
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Quoth the Mute," ."
You could try something totally weird, like signing up for a class doing something you would never think of doing or need in the future. Meeting someone in that kind of environment gives you something in common to talk about.
Talk about it and just go 'Hey I'm hungry, let's talk about this while we eat.' Just say 'Let's go.', not 'Do you wanna?'. People like decisiveness in others.
Before trying to settle on one girl, date a few. If you're a fun, humourous guy who can talk about different things, girls will find this cool and you'll probably get a few good friends this way. They'll tell their friends, so when their friends get asked by you, they'll be totally cool with it. Shit, even ask out 2 or more of them at the same time. Don't even try and match them with other guys. I've done this and found that the girls find it quite refreshing not to be under the pressure of having a guy ask them out just to get laid. You'll probably a call from them asking you out later on. Girl Friends are usually better than girl-friends at your stage in life.
not saying that this is all you can do, but it's just an idea of one thing. even tho i don't really like some things, like clubs/parties i go to them anyway and hang out in the corner to watch people and see who approaches me. my point was that if you're shy and you want to be approached, just go out to places that people socialize a lot. there's bound to be someone there who's not shy who'll start a conversation.
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kuru
'if your children ever found out how lame you are, they'd kill you in your sleep.' -frank zappa
i'm a college freshman with a gf. we've been going out for like 14 months or so. i love her and would never cheat or anything, but DAMN! if i didn't have a gf, i'd be in the money here. the first few months of college are girl heaven. all they want to do (no offense to females out there, most of these girls do) is "fool around" and have sex. i don't know if that's what you're into, but if you don't have a gf, you have the time of your life. don't get me wrong, without doing anything on the female side, i'm still having LOTS of fun getting drunk and such, but.... don't worry about a gf. especially once you get to college (or at least till sophomore year....
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brodie
Now every face looks familiar
Then every face would melt away until now
Everyone, do you know?
I know your deception
"Do, or do not. There is no try."
truer words were never spoken.
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