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i was going to have sex for the first time last night...but something came up...err down. i couldnt stay hard enough to get in...i feel like a loser...we were fooling around for a long time before that so maybe that can be a factor? or that i worked out that night also? plus it was late at night? ive had one other sexual partner before and i wasnt able to cum with her bj...and neither was i able to last night (or this morning). also, taking the time to put ON the condom kinda killed the mood too....any tips or suggestions? i hope she doesnt feel like its her fault, because its not....its totally me. damn...im so dissappointed. or maybe bjs are overrated? sorry about all the jumbled thoughts and sentence construction....i just dont know what to feel.
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Tension more than likely.

The pressure gets to you.

The only suggestion would be not to think about it too much, but just enjoy yourself..
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PostIcon Posted on: Oct. 21 2000,23:15 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
relax a lot. tension will definately cause problems with staying hard. also, maybe try having her help with the condom. it'll help keep the excitement level up while you put on the protection
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PostIcon Posted on: Oct. 22 2000,03:43 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Dont worry about it. Its a new situation. It took me about 3 times to get used to not using my hand, after that I was ok. Just spend more time getting used to each other. As for bjs it takes me a good while to build up to a climax, once im ready better move out of the way!!
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Heres what you do. Find some porn and slowly stroke your willie. See how long you can go with out spooging. Incase you cant find any heres a kick ass site. Let the porn fly.

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I had the exact same problem, but I managed to pull through. (twice with potential for a third, but it wasn't that amazing) I'm surprised it worked at all. I was 17, there was no danger of being interrupted, and I was with someone I trusted a lot. I'm surprised anything worked at all, but we got through it. It was very important that she was patient, and I didn't feel like a loser. In the end, it wasn't all that bad, and we got a hell of a lot better over time.

Point being: it's completely normal to be terrible and nervous the first time. The most important thing is that you are with someone who isn't going to laugh at you, but is willing to 'help out.' I agree on the condom thing, though... awfully inconvenient.

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PostIcon Posted on: Oct. 23 2000,05:39 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
im still hesistant to get into anything sexual with her, since im afraid of not rising to the occassion again...ill just give it some time to get more comfy with her
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alot of meople tell me they were nervious. My first time i wasent nervious at all, i was chilled if eager. maby it was cause i wasent trying to prove something. or maby it was the copious ammounts of Jose Cuevro
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PostIcon Posted on: Oct. 30 2000,19:31 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
[reassuring]

you've got absolutely nothing to worry about. you can be as eager as you want the first time. you're still gonna be nervous. relax. and as long as your partner isn't going "ha ha" you're fine. she'll understand if she knows it's your first time. and she'll help you get it up if you give her a bit of... manual stimulaton first. it should even get YOUR motor running again.

and i know EXACTLY what you mean about the no-show on the bj. given time, you'll get used to it. it takes me a helluvalot longer to cum from a bj than from a hand or from pussy. that dosen't mean they're not worth the wait.

oh, and even if you think it kills the mood, USE SOME GODDAMN PROTECTION. if you're both sure you haven't got some kind of horrible diseases, then at least make sure nobody ends up pregnant.

you are NOT a faliure, man. stiff upper lip. the rest should follow suit ;-)

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PostIcon Posted on: Oct. 30 2000,19:33 Skip to the previous post in this topic.  Ignore posts   QUOTE
and no, pulling out is NOT protection. you have no idea how many times i've heard people suggest otherwise.

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